Socializing is something that many of us struggle with. But when you’re on the autism spectrum, socializing can become an especially uncomfortable, exhausting, or nerve-wracking experience. Social nervousness, anxiety and awkwardness are perhaps the best-known symptoms of autism, which says a lot about the struggles autistic individuals are faced with in their day to day lives.
If you’re on autism spectrum and you’re terrified of the prospect of socializing, this blog post is exactly what you need. In the next few paragraphs, will provide you some tips on coping with (or even enjoying) social occasions.
Look Your Best
The old adage “a good first impression can work wonders” holds true here. Before going to a social event, put in a little extra effort in your appearance so you’ll look more approachable and attractive. And it goes without saying that looking good can boost your confidence as well. By “put in a little extra effort” we don’t mean that you need to be flashy or try to stand out. Just brushing your hair and putting on clothes that fit you well is all you need to do.
If you’re the shy and silent type, you don’t need to jump headfirst into a loud party. It’s best to start with a calmer small-group setting that is more up your alley and won’t overwhelm you. Remember, making new friends is something you can’t force. Try to expand your comfort zone as slowly and gently as possible and give yourself time to adapt. Things that can help you in doing so include:
- Hanging out with a close group of your close friends
- Going to social events where you know you’ll be low-key
- Going to a disability/autism group where people are likely to be more accepting and welcoming
Do not Fear Yourself, or Your Condition
In order to overcome your social anxiety, you need to be confident. And in order to be confident, you need to understand that your condition is not a burden. You need to embrace it as a gift–a gift that gives you notable strength and can help you be a more creative, compassionate and unique person. This is very important. If you feel that you’re horrible hindered or afflicted, it’ll be reflected in your attitude. Running away from who you are will only make you feel more alone.
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